Architecture of Meaning

Cultivating Meaningful Engagement for the Highly Sensitive Person

“Everything that seems empty is full of the angels of God” ~St. Hilary

One of the ways that we are failed by a culture of action is that we are unable to find beauty and magic in moments and places of emptiness. … For sensitives, emptiness is a home that tends to be surrendered at an early age and must be reclaimed along the way. The belief that one needs to be busy, or should be engaged in worldly things, makes the choices that would foster empty time hard ones to make or sustain.

…Part of the healing work is to identify if something is not working in the interaction. Often, the anticipation of expressing some dysfunction to the practitioner evokes fear in the client. A client often fears that sharing what is not working will put the relationship at risk.

The client’s childhood trauma often involved splitting from oneself in order to get love. The predicament of deciding whether one continues to see an unconscious healer, (or a practitioner who is causing some harm), in order to “get help”, or if one will put that relationship at risk by stating one’s needs, is a repetition of the childhood dilemma….

In a time where externalities demand more and more attention, it can seem counter-intuitive to focus inside. However, if the future holds more instability in weather (not less), then the requirement to resolve ancient wounds so that we may be neutral in present and demanding circumstances seems more pressing than ever. When the internal landscape lacks alignment, then the external causes of disequilibrium and stress become exponentially overwhelming.

Whether it is the meaning and value of a “no”, or the gift of rejection, family, school, work and cultural norms fail to assist us in appreciating the value of the no….

As children, if we grew up in a family or culture in which we were not seen or valued, we may have unknowingly adopted a false self. If we have a strong will, there are few ways for this persona to be penetrated. Often, the rejections are the chiropractic adjustment that force us to examine what we value, or what we have attached ourselves to, that may not be from a place of alignment. The more we slam our head against closed doors, the more likely we are to be willing to ask if that direction is our true path. The no’s and rejections may be the only path to our authentic self.

…While I do not begin to suggest that sensitives and visionaries know how climate change is going to play out, I would say that many sensitives and visionaries live with a sense of how large events will play out or come to pass that surpasses all logical explanation. In some ways it is as if they lack the filter that limits the ability of most people to see beyond the present….

If a pebble is dropped in the pond, it is as if the sensitive or visionary feels or sees as far out as the 100th ripple….As crises spread, deep change is mandatory. Someone aware of the ripples can be confused as to why it takes such crisis for most citizens to even begin to consider the need for change. This is part of the pain of carrying a capacity for vision - or for the awareness of the exponential.