Architecture of Meaning
Cultivating Meaningful Engagement for Highly Gifted Adults and Highly Sensitive People

Beyond Success

Gifted, perceptive, often on the leading edge in your field of expertise, you have come to a place where your intelligence is a barrier to finding authentic engagement. The dominant culture emphasizes and trusts the lens of the intellect. Highly successful individuals have often achieved their success by ignoring subtle, nonverbal sensing in order to efficiently evaluate and meet external expectations. This ability to ignore inner promptings can make it exceedingly difficult to find authentic threads of meaning.

Therapy, meditation, yoga, personal empowerment courses, spiritual teachings, and coaching may have failed to illuminate the blocks that prevent full engagement in your life. Caught up in pain, drama or intellectual analysis, you are unable find any compelling fabric of meaning.

The soul’s truth is often exceedingly difficult to access in a culture dominated by the mind and by the ego’s agenda. Many people spend years on a quest to find an authentic existence, tricking themselves into believing they are finding their core truths, while all the time, their minds are protecting them from the embodied experience of their pain, their fears and the blocks to their full presence.

To be part of a culture means to absorb the culture’s bias. In our culture, to be successful is to be happy. This leaves no room to live from the authentic, as anguish is part of getting to the authentic. Truth is not necessarily happiness. Dissatisfaction and discomfort are the disruptions to life that invite the deepening to your essential nature.

The dominant culture tells us that if you are in pain, or feel an absence of meaning – something is wrong with you. In fact, an absence of meaning is often one of the characteristics of a true creative. It is the seeking, the longing, the inability to be satisfied with what is that is the impetus to evolution. Often, those in the greatest discomfort in the culture have the most significant contribution to make to the culture.

The path to meaning begins with tolerating and living in the absence of meaning. Identifying what is not your truth, what does not bring you joy, what leaves you empty, what is robbing you of energy – this is the path to meaning.

As a highly gifted individual, your sensitivity makes you astutely aware of the judgments and expectations of others. Untangling from the external pressures that have become internalized is one of the main pieces of initial work. In order to find you, you will have to surrender meeting the needs of others the way you always have. In some way it will feel like you are failing.

Our culture places a great emphasis on what can be seen and named. In our work together we discover and name the unique sense of things for which you have had no language or which has never been acknowledged. For the highly cerebral individual who can find it exceedingly hard to access the place of emotional and spiritual truths – our work allows intricate and subtle dynamics that prevent meaningful engagement to be identified and transcended.

Most people are designed to avoid feelings or truths that cause discomfort. By the time you contact me, the inner discomfort from: not living by your core values, the inability to access your deepest truths and the inability to live in accordance with internal promptings, gives you the courage to step into the place where you leave behind what is familiar. In the place of discomfort that has eluded all relief, you are ready to surrender your idea of yourself, the idea of your life and what you want to be true, in order to find out who you actually are.

Through Our Work Together You:

Name, value and step into your own personal vision. You step beyond the culture’s influence as it has colored your thoughts, actions and ways of relating to yourself and the world.

See that rather than there being an intrinsic absence of meaning, you have actually withdrawn from that which does not feed your soul.

Attend to core truths that have never been named or valued.

Develop tools to cultivate inner kindness, creative engagement and an inner equilibrium.

...the place where you have used up what you know and what makes you feel secure. – Tim Farrington